What I’d Do For A Good Body

March 2, 2016


My eyes darted across the room to my reflection in the mirror. My head turned away, frustrated, disgusted by the figure I saw, but I couldn’t help but glance back. I was tormented by the imperfections that overwhelmed me, but I couldn’t stop examining them. I pinched at any skin I could get my hands on and sucked in as I angled sideways. I just wanted a good body. A hot body. Thin thighs and a concave stomach. And I was willing to do anything to get it. 

At 14 I was terrified to be fat. Terrified. At less than 100 lbs it should have been the last thing on my mind, but I didn’t stop thinking about it. I skipped breakfast, avoided lunch, and purged my dinner the moment I could find time alone. I wanted a good body, and I was willing to starve myself to get it. 

By 16 I realized that avoiding food meant dodging too many questions, so I ate. I ate and I purged in secret. Anything I felt was too much for what my body needed, I got rid of the moment I could find a bathroom. I wanted a good body, a hot body, and I was willing to secretly haul nutrients out to get it. 

What I'd Do For A Good Body

For years I struggled with my body image. Hating my body, wishing I could change it. Coveting girls with smaller breasts and thin thighs. I swung drastically from an unhealthy preoccupation with food to not caring at all what I put in my body (believing that if I concerned myself with food I would fall back into old habits). All of my understanding of what it meant to have a good body was purely visual. Good bodies = hot bodies. 

It took time, but I eventually learned how to love myself and treat my body better. Although, I still had some pretty skewed ideas about body that I didn’t even realize were there. I was happy with who I was and content with how I looked, but deep down, I still craved a good body. Who doesn’t want to be hot?

Before we turned 30, Clark and I were both determined to be in the best shape of our lives. We loved running and working out together and had made a pledge to be at our peak physical fitness by our 30th birthdays. We wanted to be healthy, sure, but there was some visual motivation to look good too!

That year leading up to my 30th birthday brought on challenges I could have never imagined. I was determined to work hard for that killer bod, but something was going wrong. I just couldn’t keep up. My body wasn’t working the way it was supposed to.

2 days before my 30th birthday, instead of celebrating my new rock hard abs, I sat in a neurologists office and learned that I had Multiple Sclerosis. My body was failing.  I struggled to climb a set of stairs. Some days I could hardly hold my body weight upright. I had lost muscle mass and my body was failing me. I was thin, but I didn’t care. That didn’t matter anymore. I can remember turning to Clark and uttering the words, “I’d do anything for a good body.”

Not thin thighs. I needed strong legs that could carry me. 
Not sculpted abs. I needed a frame that could hold me.
Not limited food. I needed nutrition that would fuel me.
I just wanted a good body. Like, an actual good body. 

Today my eyes darted across the room to my reflection in the mirror. The edge of my lips turned up into a smile as I looked confidently at my reflection. I was unbothered by the imperfections reflected back at me. Today I was determined to find strength. Strength to walk. Strength to live. Strength to be. I want a good body. A strong, capable body that won’t fail me. A nourished, healthy body that will carry me through the day. I’ll do anything for a good body, but that’s means something completely different to me today than it once did. 

There are so many days now I wish I could go back to that 14 year old girl who abused and destroyed the body she had. I wish I could go back and help her see how awesome she could feel, and even look, if she fuelled her body for the life she really wanted to live. I wish the years I had with a good body were better used. If only I knew then what I know now.  

Let’s change what a “good body” means and do whatever it takes to keep our bodies good for as long as we can. You in?

12 thoughts on “What I’d Do For A Good Body

  1. Misty Blake-Knox

    I have felt a draw to you since you spoke at the Soul Sanctuary women’s group. I have hated my body for so long. I have tried so many things. I would feel like I was worth while because I was being ‘good’ with food. Then I would give up because my idea of being good would be shattered anytime I would indulge in a dessert. In the last few months I have come to realize that I deserve good things. As part of that, I hired a trainer and she has been helping me with my food choices. I have seen huge change in my eating habits. I cook real meals for myself because I deserve them. Next week we are going to eliminate processed sugar for a while. I am looking forward to taking care of myself in this way but also a little freaked out. I need to do this. I’m doing it for the right reasons.

    1. Kim Moran Post author

      Misty, it’s a lifelong journey! I’m convinced! The biggest part is learning that you deserve to be healthy and strong, and that food can fuel you to live a great life!! You can totally do it!! Way to go in taking the right steps!

  2. Demelza Martin

    Oh Kim. What a story. This touched my heart tremendously. Thank you for blessing us women with the stories of your life journey. God is truly using you to be a BRIGHT shining LIGHT. Love you! <3

  3. Charla Schuman

    What a wonderful read. Bittersweet, but wonderful all the same. I know a few of my daughter’s teenage friends who could benefit from reading this as much as I did. As someone who has also struggled with food as a source to be limited, rather than fuel for the body my entire life, now in my 30s I am also learning how to look at it differently. It’s taken a lot of baby steps to choose fruit over candy, lemon water over pop, etc., and heck, I’m still having to make those conscious choices daily, but it’s so worth it.
    God bless you, Kim!! You are in my prayers.

    1. Kim Moran Post author

      Thanks Carla! It’s such a huge mindset change to begin to think of food as fuel, but possible!!

  4. Kristine

    For my whole life, I’ve been told by society that my body is not good enough, not beautiful. When I hear that everyday in one way or another, it becomes a belief that is rooted deep within my soul. I’ve hated my body for years; many, many years. Every morning it has become my routine to sit in front of the mirror and pick out every flaw and try to make it look better somehow. Then one morning, just recently, I was looking at myself in the mirror, as I do everyday and for the first time, I saw beauty. I saw beautiful eyes that allow me to see the vibrant, beautiful world. I saw a beautiful mouth that allows me to taste and has helped me develop a passion for cooking. I saw beautiful ears, and the gift of hearing that I am so blessed to have. It was a reminder that there is much more to my body than what the world sees. Kim, thank you for being brave enough to write this post and continue to challenge my definition of a ‘good body’. What a beautiful reminder that there is so much more to our bodies that just our outward appearances.

    1. Kim Moran Post author

      Thanks for sharing Kristine. It’s a pretty awesome journey when we can begin to see ourselves differently. Praying for continued progress for you!!!

  5. Terry Ward

    Beautiful Kim ! Right from your heart . Great to know that our Heavenly Father listens to the cry of your heart .
    Blessings to you & Clark,

  6. Pam de Vries

    Thank you Kim for your transparency. Through this journey we share together we learn and are given the incredible privilege of sharing that knowledge with others on their journey, whatever that may be.
    Once you see/feel the affects of the healthy focused life change you don’t want to ever go back.
    Glad to be tracking along with you on this journey.

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